Choosy!

They call me picky, choosy, selective… not sure how to feel about that.

I’m a social person but I am aware of the fact that I have proper conversations with not that many people.

And I’m conscious of how small my circle, my true circle, is.

Do I do it on purpose? No!

Someone I didn’t even know that well once told me I was “choosy”.

He then made his point… it wasn’t that I was selfish.

It’s just that I want to surround myself of people whom I think might understand me.

Since mostly I keep to myself in certain environments, I come across as snobbish, arrogant, picky, choosy…

I’m sorry… at the risk of sounding like all of these, I admit I need to surround myself with people whom I feel I can trust, whom I feel can keep up and can challenge me in some way.

Someone who will understand I can be as much of a clumsy clown and a walking disaster as much as a determined woman, who enjoys unlikely and surprising conversations.

Sometimes I’m wrong.

I trust the wrong people and end up judged.

I can’t control their judgement.

I won’t even try.

Because the moment I feel judged, I stop trusting.

And once I stop trusting, I no longer bother.

I don’t need a bigger circle.

But the right people will always find a place beside me. 🤷🏻‍♀️🎀🌟🌻

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Author: Love and Everyday Affairs

The idea behind this page is to share my opinion and experience in what seems to be a crazy world nowadays. I look at myself, my friends and acquaintances and hear so many different, yet similar stories… of our search for Love, disappointments, insights. I wanted to share them! Considering cultural differences some adjustments had to be made. Hope you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoy writing it!

10 thoughts on “Choosy!”

  1. True. Better wording would be, “The more fake you are…” 😉 I’m the same way. Women with self-esteem and know what they want are still highly taboo in our culture at the grassroots level. Men speak all of this political correctness but when their back is to the wall, it depends on whether they are a dog or a cat as to how much they’ll tolerate.

      1. *sigh* The men are something. They are not nearly as brave and knowledgable in relationships as we are. I think women need accept that they are full of fear and we are full of love. I find it depressing. Then men I talk to admit it. I’ve tried to guide and help my mates to no avail. Deep down, I think they want to try to be more independent like we are. ???

      2. Absolutely. I am 56 years old and I’ve seen it over and over. It really seems that they see us as “food”, like a baby needing to breastfeed. There is some hardwire or maybe even lack of bonding to their mother if they did NOT breastfeed? That may be the obsession with our breasts. Yes, the men who listen and express themselves are extremely sexy.

  2. Absolutely agree with you on this! I find that the older I get, the more I choose to associate with like-minded people or people who I know won’t judge me! I have no energy trying to appease anyone anymore!

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