The endless thoughts and random opinions of a single girl
Author: Love and Everyday Affairs
The idea behind this page is to share my opinion and experience in what seems to be a crazy world nowadays.
I look at myself, my friends and acquaintances and hear so many different, yet similar stories… of our search for Love, disappointments, insights.
I wanted to share them!
Considering cultural differences some adjustments had to be made.
Hope you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoy writing it!
“Every word we speak and every action we perform affects our future. But where do words and actions come from? They all start from our mind. And when we indulge in resentment or obsession or self-righteous thinking, we create several problems for ourselves. First we suffer the immediate pain of those thoughts and emotions, then we act in ways that cause ourselves and others harm. Finally, we reinforce a habit we’d be better without” Pema Chondron – Welcoming the Unwelcome
How do we relate to failure?
How do we relate to our unwanted surroundings?
Feeling not ok is ok, it’s part of the process of Life, it’s part of who we are.
Embracing the frustration and acknowledging it’s not ok, is part of the emerging awareness.
And that awareness will trigger you to bring out your best self.
Victimization and self-commiseration will not serve us on the long run of our life journey.
Give yourself time to cry and feel destroyed.
It will feel like annihilation around you.
But let’s give ourselves the right to react and slowly stand up.
We can learn from it, become stronger with with, be better prepared.
So let’s not delve in it forever.
Let’s not reinforce those habits.
Let’s mind how we speak to ourselves and others knowing the impact it will have at a later stage in ripple effect.
Let’s be aware of what we can make indestructible in ourselves.
Many of the ones who are in lockdown with their families wish they were alone.
Many of the ones who are alone through the lockdown wish they had a family to be with.
These are harsh circumstances… attending to work needs, house hold needs, kids needs, playing, home schooling…. where are your needs?
There’s no release.
For some it’s been about freedom of the mind and spirit, for some it’s been a prison not only of the body but mostly of the mind, where there’s no truce, no peace.
So many are going through this losing their job, losing their income… but the bills will still be there.
So many may be at the verge of depression and mental illness, even if they are living comfortably.
So many living in poverty with nothing they can consider a gift, except life itself and the act of breathing on their own.
The human brain, emotion and behavior is so unpredictable, especially in times like these.
So yes, let’s acknowledge, accept and respect all that’s going around, understanding it will pass.
And life will resume again.
For most of us.
Let’s not ignore the ones who passed away with no one holding their hands.
The ones who lost a loved one and cannot mourn in that last goodbye.
The ones who can’t go home due to their high risk activity.
And the ones who lose a loved one because they are trying to save the world, by saving one life at the time.
It will be a different world. It will be a different way of life.
The challenges of this quarantine… obviously the feeling of being “locked up”… of feeling stuck… realizing the freedom we take for granted isn’t that free after all.
Realizing everything we do (and don’t do) can impact someone’s health, including our own.
Health we also take for granted.
Seeing ourselves deprived of social contact… we’re social animals.
Online gatherings help. It’s not the same but it helps a lot!
The miracle of social media allowing us to actually stay connected and engage into virtual communities.
We are deprived of seeing our family and loved ones, our friends… deprived of stepping out for a coffee, to go to the beach, to the movies, for dinner and drinks… everything we take for granted.
It can be nerve recking.
Suddenly it’s all taken from us… for our higher good.
It can trigger a whole world of uneasy emotions.
And suddenly you need to learn to relax.
In an active or passive way. Or both.
And suddenly you can see what’s always been in front of you but you’ve never really seen it because you were always too busy doing something else and going somewhere else.
And now you can just sit still.
And See.
And Listen.
To the quiet.
To the peace.
Stop.
Look around.
Appreciate it for what it is.
We can actually allow it to linger and take our time.
It won’t happen again that soon once daily life resumes its regular pace, its regular needs.
In the past few days I have seen more people running and biking outdoors as never before… it makes me think we really don’t have enough time at home to do these little things.
The little time we have available on weekends is often taken to run errands and do things we don’t get to do during the week.
So these simple pleasures get left behind.
And these are the valuable things.
These are the true breaks that indefinite down Time allows for… which always reminds me that Time (and Health above all) is Life’s most precious gift.
The time to connect to yourself and your surroundings.
The time to appreciate in depth what you have created around you.
The time to improve yourself.
If you are aware of it and if you wish to do so, as no one else can do it for you.
Yes, there are many concerns and consequences we may not fully be able to foresee and measure yet.
And it can take a heavy toll on everyone.
Not knowing.
Uncertainty facing our hard work to build certainty.
To know what to expect.
To control… Going outside for a run may be a reflection of both inner peace or inner restlessness.
You may want to appreciate the outdoors desperately or you may want to escape the indoors desperately…
The need for freedom runs deep within the human soul.
Depending on what you believe freedom is, how you feel it and how you manifest it.
Freedom can be silent or it can be loud.
It can be body, it can be soul, it can be both… To each its own truth.
Why do we need to go on random adventure knowing it will just be a crazy rollercoaster that’s gonna give us a massive rush but in the end you wonder why you did it.
Because you knew what to expect.
You knew you were gonna scream and shout and almost pee your pants because you hate rollercoasters as they add absolutely no value to your life.
