Author: Love and Everyday Affairs

It’s hard work to put it to practice.

And even more since I can’t really define what it means to “want you”.

Especially when opposed to “want Him” or “want something”.

And even more when you loose track of yourself in the name of chasing something you believe in.

I respect going after what you want.

I respect chasing what feels true to your heart.

But I’m for chasing whatever feels right.

I mean fighting for someone, for instance. You can fight if there’s a margin for it.

Understanding and tolerance, yes.

Being there for support, absolutely.

But if that person is kicking you out, what else will you do?

Crawl at their feet to be stepped on?

So this is where I draw my thin line of love for other and love for myself.

I also think Love doesn’t make you beg.

It’s there to be given, appreciated and received by whom ever is ready for it.

It’s not meant to block you.

It’s not meant to play you.

On that note, I guess that’s what it means to “want you”.

When you become more than the victim, than the unhappy one, than the one longing for someone to make you happy.

No one can make you happy.

If you’re not your full self, there’s always something that will make you distrust, and therefore, not happy.

Let go of the frustration, of the fear of uncertainty.

Make the conscious effort to step away from what makes you feel small.

Own yourself more than you want to own anything else.

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Here’s to Womanhood.

To being a full grown woman.

To women who rule their world.

They crack, they break.

They lower their guns and become the sweetest, caring, loving kittens who long for the cuddles.

But still they know what they want.

And how they want it.

They go for it once they’re sure.

Every independent woman wishes for a reliable, strong, smart and caring man.

But more than wishing for a man she wishes to be self-reliable.

Self made.

It’s not a man’s job to save a woman.

His job is to add value to her mind, body and soul.

She’ll treasure it.

But if not, grown women just need to live up to their own expectations, and no one else’s.

They build themselves as they go.

And then they rebuild.

Remodel.

Reinvent.

Repaint.

Restart.

This picture is reflecting all of that.

Thanks to the lovely super woman who clicked it!

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How many times do you see yourself deeply engulfed in a situation which completely blind sights you?

You’re so wired living in a temporary bubble that you don’t really care about the outcome because you can only feel right here, right now.

Then finally you start settling down, cooling down… and thinking to yourself… let me step back here… what would I tell my friends if they were in this same situation?

How can I see this story from the outside as a viewer rather than the actress?

What would I interpret of it?

How would I envision the end of this movie?

What does my experience tell me?

What does my gut feeling tell me?

They tell you nothing just because you’re full on up in the clouds and there’s nothing you can see clearly.

Step back again.

What if it was happening to a friend and not you?

You finally start reasoning, deconstructing your crazy electricity, turning it to brain process.

Slowly you realize things.

Things you maybe didn’t want to see and especially didn’t want to feel.

You start reframing the whole thing.

And although you clearly know what you need to do, you just can’t.

It’s stronger than you.

Well I say You Can.

You might need help from friends, a therapist, alternative therapies, meditation, the gym, reading, going to the beach, you name it.

The fear of losing something that suddenly became so meaningful is too heavy.

So it’s not an immediate process.

You don’t snap your fingers and boom… done.

Pain is gone, memories are gone!

It’s not magic.

But it’s possible, one day at the time.

You’ll feel it a bit less and less as days go by.

And one day you’ll feel lighter.

As in light weight.

And you’ll feel the light switch on again. But for that to happen, you need to let go.

You need to release yourself from the fear, the insecurity.

You need to break from what makes you numb.

And grow strong again.

Reposition yourself right where you belong: to your energetic, beautiful, full of sunshine bubble.

It takes time.

But you’ll get there.

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Oh Failure… that word no one wants on their mind dictionary… and it’s probably one of the most common experiences of our lives.

Failed relationships, failed friendships, failed jobs, failed plans, failed dreams, failed goals.

Failure hurts.

It hurts your heart, your pride, your ego… and eventually it hurts your soul.

We fail because we believe we can win.

Simple.

We fail because the will to win is stronger than the fear, the bruised ego and the bitterness that follows.

So we go for it.

We take the chance.

We believe in words, promises and acts which fade away and we wonder why we failed again.

But we tried.

Had we not tried and failed?

What if we had been successful?

Taking the fall and getting back up is as important as savoring the win. Don’t forget any win can turn into failure in a heartbeat.

It’s frustrating to acknowledge failure after failure.

It’s painful.

It’s a waste of yourself when you have so much to give, should you be given the opportunity… it’s hard keeping the excitement for new opportunities when you fell again and again.

It’s even harder when you feel you’re not given credit to showcase yourself.

In any sphere of your life.

You can’t really dissociate them because your well being is a Human Being.

It’s a whole piece, although you show different pieces in different moments and circumstances.

So take your time bouncing back from each failure.

And start all over again.

Simply because you can.

You can even start with the wrong reasons but it’s the right ones that will lead you to an outcome.

And a learning.

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You are who you are.

People won’t see the real you.

Some because they don’t want to.

Some because they won’t get a chance.

Some because it’s “too much”… of everything.

So yes, you learn to dim yourself in every context of your life.

You learn through circumstances how to contain yourself.

With lovers, at work, acquaintances… you just slide by.

You learn to cope with it because you also know the right kind of people will want to get to know the real you.

And those, the ones who will bother, are the ones you consider worthy.

You know your own worth.

And you also know not everyone can handle all of you.

And it’s fine.

It’s life making sure the triage is done.

And until that process is complete… be happy!

Be you!

Be that sunshine!

Go to the beach! 🌻🌞🏝☮️💟☯️

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Yes, indeed I wish so!

Either I have waayyy to much to offer or people really just don’t want to be surprised any more… people complain because they don’t have it and then they complain because they do have it… Well?!

No woman thinks they have waaayyy to much to offer!

They have their own fullness to offer and I think guys just get intimidated by “too much”.

My main concern here is that even the simplest thing is already too much.

The simple fact that you know what you what and you say it makes you too fiery, too demanding and not understanding… uh… where’s the balance here?!

Why do you always need to contain yourself?

What is it so extraordinary (in a bad way) about these days that a bit of heat is already “too much”?!

“Taking it slowly” is now an excuse to not own your words and actions.

Where are the male specimens who are not afraid to commit?

The ones who know what they want and go for it without dropping the ball in the first month?

Building relationships is demanding.

It demands time and attention.

There are no miracles.

You need to put in the effort, use your heart and your brains!

It goes both ways!

Both Men and Women need to do their best to understand each other’s needs.

But will they actually try to suppress those needs?

Where’s the common ground?

How are you going to surpass that broken bridge?

Once you figure it out, please let me know!

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Living requires a certain amount of spice.

And that special spice is Passion.

It’s the intense full flavor, it’s that edge, it’s the wow, surprising impact.

It brings small and simple moments from ordinary to extra-ordinary.

To memorable, to skin goosebumps, you can still feel them once they’re gone.

It electrifies from the bottom of your feet till the top of your head, you feel it all the way through your spine.

It’s about being Alive and Connected.

It’s that energy that keeps you going.

Whenever you can, add that extra spice.

And feel free.

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