Why are Men and Women so intrinsically different?

Men are from Mars and Women from Venus.

I now get this absolute truth.

Men want war, Women want love.

Men are Brain, Women are Heart.

Men take it as is, Women take it once they understand.

There’s an obvious deep gap between their brains and their languages.

Men fight for themselves, women fight for what they believe in.

They fight not with words, but with small gestures, with faith, understanding, forgiveness.

They fight until they understand their man doesn’t want to be fought for.

And that’s the only time they’ll stop.

It’s that resilience that makes them want to believe so much in some underlying hidden truth that finally makes them weak.

Or strong?

Who are we to judge what’s weak or strong?

Men see women as strong intangible dreams until they see it’s only real after all.

Until they break their walls.

And once their walls are broken, they’re vulnerable.

Their insecurities emerge.

They get attached.

They fear losing something that’s become so precious.

And because of that fear of loss, they hold on tight.

So the man feels suffocated.

He backs away to avoid the drama at any cost.

Better to avoid it than to break through it.

The more he steps away, the more she feels unwanted and undervalued, regretting ever having allowed him into her loving Venus universe.

She’s now questioning everything little thing he’s said and done.

While she needs a steady Man who understands her fears and soothes her, a confident, mature Man who’ll be there even in her weak moments with no judgement, he’s floating further and further away as the feelings aren’t enough to pull him through.

Maybe he’s the insecure one who can’t handle her vulnerability.

Maybe he’s not strong enough to go through the storm until the sun is shining again.

While she simply loves, while she values him as he is, in all his humanity – even warriors are fragile and cry at times – while she’s willing to hold his hand and just be there until he understands she’s not going anywhere, he’s scared it’s just too much.

He shuts down.

He can’t handle her humanity.

He wants her to be a warrior too.

And though she’s the warrior he’s seen, suddenly only the weakness comes through.

He forgets that if he doesn’t shut down, he’ll see the warrior he first met.

He will see the sexiness, the laughter, the attraction, the flirt, the lightness and how easy and comfortable everything was.

It’s all still there.

Both need to remember again and again that women are from Venus.

And Men are from Mars.

Why can’t they just meet half way, in this beautiful planet called Earth?

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I suppose it can be.

A reset, a humbling understanding of yourself.

And it’s not January 1st that’s going to bring the enlightenment we look for.

The earth simply completed one more round of spinning around the sun.

And you’re about to get one year older somewhere within the next 365 days.

Your energy doesn’t shift simply because you’re entering a new year.

Your energy will shift when it’s the right time for that to happen and if you work for it.

But of course we need faith, we need to believe a new year will bring some of our goals and dreams.

We hold on to the hope and trust the “old” year will wash away all unnecessary thoughts, feelings and dramas.

We cling to the expectation that “this is the year”.

And even if you’re not sure what to think, which direction is the right one, what move to do next and how… even if you’re lost… trust you’ll be able to provide your own answers, at the right time.

See yourself as a blank canvas where you’ll paint your own work of art.

And if you don’t like it, do it again and again until you’re at peace with the result.

Your work needs to get done.

By you, for you.

It’s your findings.

Your expectations, your dreams.

Make sure every step you take has the intention to bring you closer to them.

New Year’s Eve party won’t show you the path to follow.

It’s one more chance to attend a great special party.

Enjoy it!

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Today I read a post on how women cried about not having children.

It occurred to me that in all scenarios, these women were married.

I’m sure their pain is immense.

I found myself relating in so many different ways.

My thoughts drifted to all the women in their 30s, 40s and so on who aren’t even married.

And they cry for it.

They cry for all the failed relationships.

They cry for all the guys who came into their lives to be just another guy rather than a Man.

Rather than The Man.

They cry for the endless love they have to give and it’s held within them.

They cry for the experiences they can’t share with a special one.

They cry for not having kids.

They cry for the loneliness.

They cry for the hopelessness.

They cry because they think they’re broken.

Flawed.

Unworthy.

There’s no other half.

No one is their rock.

There’s no one to lean on.

They become their own rock.

They slowly let go of the heavy load to face everything as lightly as they can.

We all cry. And we all cry for different reasons.

For whatever is lacking in our life that we value as fundamental.

Women cry a lot.

That’s how they cleanse.

That’s how they release emotions.

But we don’t only cry. And we don’t cry all the time.

We also laugh. We smile. We wander.

We hope for a sudden magical twist to lead us towards the rest of our life.

We know we’re building our lives as we go.

Bad decisions, good decisions.

They all build us.

Make us stronger. Happier. Hopeful.

We have no other choice but to believe.

We have no other choice but to believe in ourselves when no one else does.

No other choice other than to keep smiling and moving forward.

For the sake of our sanity.

For the sake of our soul.

For the sake of who we are.

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Huhhhh… have you ever felt like this or is it just me? 😅

Why do they have to say everything you want to hear and act as if they’re really trying hard to get you?

They are fully in it, they look you in the eye, they do anything to get your attention and commitment.

Until you actually make them a priority. Until you decide you actually care for them and are willing to try.

That’s the day they change.

That’s the day when it all becomes too much.

The silence starts.

The excuses begin.

It doesn’t matter what they said or what they’ve done to ensure you’d see yourself with them.

They build it.

The image, the environment, the feeling of trust and connection. The expectation.

When you finally believe it… you are critiqued because you’re all in.

Is it completely irrelevant they created the idea of “all in”?

How could you tell it was a lie?

How would you know it was a fake when it made you feel so good?

You start questioning yourself…

Did you imagine everything that’s been said and done?

Did you dream it?

So then, it’s your fault for wanting too much.

Too much pressure all of the sudden.

Silence. Distance.

The worst of all, indifference.

That person who went on and beyond to make you see them, connect with them… is now a perfect stranger.

So it all starts over.

Ctrl, Alt, Del. Restart.

Turn into a computer to delete the words.

Erase the actions.

Pretend it never happened.

Make it meaningless.

How easy is that?

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If Love isn’t supposed to be intense, then what is?

Out of all the feelings, Love is definitely the strongest, the silliest and the one that makes you shake the most… literally.

Your legs shake, your hands sweat, the butterflies in your belly, the electricity, the lack of reasoning, the trembled words… yes… it’s the most intense of all.

But still it’s the one everyone tries to tone down.

As it’s too intense.

So maybe we can only all “like” each other and keep ourselves “reasonably” safe, rather than falling in love and flying.

I’m sorry. I Love.

I want to Love.

Especially if I’m given reasons for it.

Apologies for the inconvenience.

One day someone will be as crazy as me, with me.

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Welcome to the season❣️

The season of Love, Family, togetherness.

And how ironic it is that it’s also the season of family drama and pain you don’t want to face.

Because everything looks so perfect.

And yet, families broken apart, absent loved ones, cut ties, make it one of the most painful seasons ever.

You see Love all around the surface that surrounds you.

But deep down, the hidden pictures in your brain, the ugly unspoken truths, unsettle your restless mind.

The loneliness, the wishful thinking that hasn’t materialized, the human fragilities all emerge in invisible silence.

You take whatever you can get.

It’s not perfect but in the end, if you have someone in your family whom you want to spend time during the holidays, do it.

You only realize how much you miss them when you can’t be around them.

Particularly in Christmas.

Regardless of all the peculiarities of the season, for me, it’s still a magical season.

So, I do make my own Christmas tree.

It comforts me somehow.

It quiets me gently in trusting that something good will follow.

It’s like it impersonates some kind of good will and hope.

So I go with it.

And I make it a point of always having my little bit of private Christmas Time.

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“Control your emotions”… emotions are those little bastards that mostly lead you into wrong decisions or wrong ways to deal with the consequences of those wrong decisions.

However… we are not robots and we feel.

A lot.

All the time.

It’s tiring and self-consuming.

Hence, controlling them is actually an act of self-love and self-preservation.

Avoiding them though will only make them stay longer deep within your soul.

Pretending you’re happy all the time won’t bring you the happiness you’re looking for.

Being positive and pretending to be happy all the time are two different things.

You can be in a state of unhappiness, of difficult times, but understanding and hoping that it will get better.

If you’re pretending to be happy all the time, when will you deal with with those emotions?

When will you acknowledge them and identify them?

You’ll only be building a think layer of inner conflict.

Allow yourself to feel. Deeply.

Don’t ignore those inner triggers.

Instead, work on them.

Use them to identify what and who you want to BE.

Use them to know yourself.

Bring them to the surface so you can make them lighter and easier to carry.

Co-exist with them, reserve them a place in your brain.

Otherwise, they’ll become heavier, harder to decode and needlessly weighting you down with no apparent explanation and before you know it, it’s slowly destroying you.

Integrate them with the bright light shit and move on, knowing that there’s a place for every emotion.

Do your work.

Grow with it.

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