Author: Love and Everyday Affairs

When you wait for no one to travel with you, for no one to buy you gifts or your favorite treat, for no one to motivate you to go for your dreams or make plans with you… it can be a pretty lonely life.

It can be a real threat to your mental (and physical) health.

Yes, you make your own plans. You make your own decisions with no consultancy.

No one will be there to have your back. If you fall, you fall on your own.

There’s no soft landing.

(If you’re lucky enough to have a few good friends, keep them. They will be invaluable throughout your journey, they do soften the blows a bit)

It’s rough, it’s tough but you always got it.

It’s just the way it’s always been, the way life taught you.

How strong do you need to be to love yourself like you’re not waiting for someone else to do it?

How much do you have to believe in your self worth?

How grounded do you need to be to try and evaluate every falling piece of your life and stick them all back together?

How much Hope do you need to breath in and relax?

How much effort do you require to let go of that excruciating need to control the course of your life?

To face how it should be vs how it really is.

It is what it is.

Love yourself, improve yourself, work on yourself, treat yourself.

For no one other than yourself.

You need it.

You deserve it.

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So many different words, yet the same meaning, the same principle.

Love still pulls us closer than apart.

And everything that isn’t like that comes from greed, ego or simple stupidity.

I still believe we all want the same out of life in our core… until we allow something to corrupt it and we sell ourselves and our beliefs for so little.

About all the wars, about the violence, poverty, displaced people, destroyed homes, cities and historical world heritage monuments… what can be said and done to allow people to simply live in peace?

To allow people to simply feel safe?

The gift of Life is priceless and it’s handled nowadays as an exchange currency for something no one knows anything about.

The world is a vast beautiful place.

Why can’t we respect it as such?

Why can’t we just live and let live?

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I recently had a conversation about leadership and how a leader requires “Achiever” or “Command” in their top 5 strengths.

Mine are “Harmony”, “Empathy” and “Individualization”, as well as “Consistency” and “Adaptability” and apparently they are not related to Leadership.

I thought maybe these strengths were weak so my mind wandered back to their true meaning, or at least what I was explained when I did this.

Harmony isn’t about wanting everything good all the time. It’s about building bridges and finding consensus within conflict.

Empathy is about understanding other people’s point of view and it’s deeply related to emotional intelligence.

EI is now more valuable to Leadership than IQ as per latest leadership “trends”.

Individualization is acknowledging each person’s strengths and optimizing them, making the most of each individual contribution to the whole. “The whole is more than the sum of the parts”. It’s about bringing individual synergies together.

I’m not a super brain, I’m not a numbers person.

I’m a people’s person who can follow a process.

But we need to be mindfull that when we privilege numbers over people, we privilege Management over Leadership.

Which is fine if that’s what we’re looking for.

We just shouldn’t be labeling them as the same thing when they’re actually not.

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Success… such a vague broad word!

Just like Happiness, it holds different meanings to different people.

But the feeling I get is that for most people Success is measured by either money, power, status or assets.

Mix everything together and there’s the most common recipe for success.

What else can success mean?

Maybe it’s the perfect body that ultimately makes you feel accomplished.

Or maybe public speaking while getting the crowd’s admiration and inspiration.

Maybe it’s family and kids.

Maybe it’s getting married.

For some of us it may be getting the backpack ready for one more trip.

It may be spending summer sipping your drink watching one more magical sunset at the beach chinringuito with your love or your friends.

It may be an endless summer life chilling on your flip flops.

It may be volunteering in an organization that actually contributes to improve someone’s life, and therefore you help improving someone’s life, as well as your own, just by giving back… paying it forward.

So you see… so many different goals.

All are legitimate.

The beauty of human diversity.

How do you measure success?

In any way it’s meaningful to you.

Success is what you want it to be.

It’s getting where you want to be, regardless of other people’s perception and expectation.

So… get your move on.

Start.

Somewhere.

Somehow.

If you don’t know what success means to you… find out.

Experiment until you feel “at home”, just like finding love!

And then you’ll know.

Enjoy the ride 💙

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Why are Men and Women so intrinsically different?

Men are from Mars and Women from Venus.

I now get this absolute truth.

Men want war, Women want love.

Men are Brain, Women are Heart.

Men take it as is, Women take it once they understand.

There’s an obvious deep gap between their brains and their languages.

Men fight for themselves, women fight for what they believe in.

They fight not with words, but with small gestures, with faith, understanding, forgiveness.

They fight until they understand their man doesn’t want to be fought for.

And that’s the only time they’ll stop.

It’s that resilience that makes them want to believe so much in some underlying hidden truth that finally makes them weak.

Or strong?

Who are we to judge what’s weak or strong?

Men see women as strong intangible dreams until they see it’s only real after all.

Until they break their walls.

And once their walls are broken, they’re vulnerable.

Their insecurities emerge.

They get attached.

They fear losing something that’s become so precious.

And because of that fear of loss, they hold on tight.

So the man feels suffocated.

He backs away to avoid the drama at any cost.

Better to avoid it than to break through it.

The more he steps away, the more she feels unwanted and undervalued, regretting ever having allowed him into her loving Venus universe.

She’s now questioning everything little thing he’s said and done.

While she needs a steady Man who understands her fears and soothes her, a confident, mature Man who’ll be there even in her weak moments with no judgement, he’s floating further and further away as the feelings aren’t enough to pull him through.

Maybe he’s the insecure one who can’t handle her vulnerability.

Maybe he’s not strong enough to go through the storm until the sun is shining again.

While she simply loves, while she values him as he is, in all his humanity – even warriors are fragile and cry at times – while she’s willing to hold his hand and just be there until he understands she’s not going anywhere, he’s scared it’s just too much.

He shuts down.

He can’t handle her humanity.

He wants her to be a warrior too.

And though she’s the warrior he’s seen, suddenly only the weakness comes through.

He forgets that if he doesn’t shut down, he’ll see the warrior he first met.

He will see the sexiness, the laughter, the attraction, the flirt, the lightness and how easy and comfortable everything was.

It’s all still there.

Both need to remember again and again that women are from Venus.

And Men are from Mars.

Why can’t they just meet half way, in this beautiful planet called Earth?

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I suppose it can be.

A reset, a humbling understanding of yourself.

And it’s not January 1st that’s going to bring the enlightenment we look for.

The earth simply completed one more round of spinning around the sun.

And you’re about to get one year older somewhere within the next 365 days.

Your energy doesn’t shift simply because you’re entering a new year.

Your energy will shift when it’s the right time for that to happen and if you work for it.

But of course we need faith, we need to believe a new year will bring some of our goals and dreams.

We hold on to the hope and trust the “old” year will wash away all unnecessary thoughts, feelings and dramas.

We cling to the expectation that “this is the year”.

And even if you’re not sure what to think, which direction is the right one, what move to do next and how… even if you’re lost… trust you’ll be able to provide your own answers, at the right time.

See yourself as a blank canvas where you’ll paint your own work of art.

And if you don’t like it, do it again and again until you’re at peace with the result.

Your work needs to get done.

By you, for you.

It’s your findings.

Your expectations, your dreams.

Make sure every step you take has the intention to bring you closer to them.

New Year’s Eve party won’t show you the path to follow.

It’s one more chance to attend a great special party.

Enjoy it!

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Today I read a post on how women cried about not having children.

It occurred to me that in all scenarios, these women were married.

I’m sure their pain is immense.

I found myself relating in so many different ways.

My thoughts drifted to all the women in their 30s, 40s and so on who aren’t even married.

And they cry for it.

They cry for all the failed relationships.

They cry for all the guys who came into their lives to be just another guy rather than a Man.

Rather than The Man.

They cry for the endless love they have to give and it’s held within them.

They cry for the experiences they can’t share with a special one.

They cry for not having kids.

They cry for the loneliness.

They cry for the hopelessness.

They cry because they think they’re broken.

Flawed.

Unworthy.

There’s no other half.

No one is their rock.

There’s no one to lean on.

They become their own rock.

They slowly let go of the heavy load to face everything as lightly as they can.

We all cry. And we all cry for different reasons.

For whatever is lacking in our life that we value as fundamental.

Women cry a lot.

That’s how they cleanse.

That’s how they release emotions.

But we don’t only cry. And we don’t cry all the time.

We also laugh. We smile. We wander.

We hope for a sudden magical twist to lead us towards the rest of our life.

We know we’re building our lives as we go.

Bad decisions, good decisions.

They all build us.

Make us stronger. Happier. Hopeful.

We have no other choice but to believe.

We have no other choice but to believe in ourselves when no one else does.

No other choice other than to keep smiling and moving forward.

For the sake of our sanity.

For the sake of our soul.

For the sake of who we are.

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