Real is Rare.

I think of this so and so often… and I question myself… what exactly do I mean with “real”?

It seems sometimes that “real deal” is only in your mind. Although it’s real for you, anyone from the outside, with an imparcial view on it, can tell you… it’s not “real”.

So, since I already found out our mind plays tricks on us, I would expect myself to be able to “control” it… It’s one of those things you’re aware of, but controlling it is a different story. Eventually, events will prove it not to be real… not on your mind and not in the real world.

However… I’d like to speak about the other dimension of “real”. The objective one.

The one you can see, feel, touch, smell!!

When you meet someone, how do you know what they say is real?

How do you know they’re keeping themselves for you only (especially in dating app era)?

How do you know their actions are meaningful?

You don’t!

Not until you get to know one another really well… and how often do you get to that point?

Maybe never, maybe it turns out that “it wasn’t real”.

People lie.

People are not interested in getting past your flaws, your concerns, your insecurities. The deeper, intense you.

It scares them.

People want the “easy”, bubbly you.

They want the silky pink clouds only.

They forget that all of your concerns are there for a reason. They are there because life taught you that you need to “protect yourself”.

They don’t realize that after gaining your trust…. they’ll have the easiest and most bubbly smile ever.

The most loyal and real, heartfelt smile.

The kind of smile that translates a hopeful soul and not just a smile anymore.

That’s it.

And in the end, you just want the truth.

You just want their real self.

You just want a real connection.

And that… is rare.

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Author: Love and Everyday Affairs

The idea behind this page is to share my opinion and experience in what seems to be a crazy world nowadays. I look at myself, my friends and acquaintances and hear so many different, yet similar stories… of our search for Love, disappointments, insights. I wanted to share them! Considering cultural differences some adjustments had to be made. Hope you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoy writing it!

3 thoughts on “Real is Rare.”

    1. Thank you! Glad you liked it… but who said I know what I’m doing? 😁 it’s a basic template which I really struggled to get in place (not that much into technology)… regarding content… I write about what I think… and that’s it. And I think that’s what you need to respect… yourself and what you want to put out there in your blog. But that’s just me 🙄😅🤷🏻‍♀️🙈

      1. thanks for the advice….means a lot that you took the time to actually read it….thanks

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