The way a Man handles the adversities Life throws at him says a lot about who he is, especially in a relationship.
He can either crawl into his cave and just stay there, pushing away the people who love them the most, creating doubt, fear, insecurity, or they can bring their loved one to stay with him in the cave.
They understand no one can fix their issue but themselves.
But they share their pain, their fear, their tears.
They prefer having you close by to listen, to connect, to just be there.
That’s priceless.
That’s when you know he’s a grown Man.
A Man who knows where he stands and has clear ideas on what he wants from Life and Love.
Someone who assures you that you matter even in his times of storm.
When even amidst his hell, he leaves no room for you to question your presence, making it a point you’re not a burden or unnecessary weight.
Someone who is clear in communicating his thoughts.
That’s maturity.
That’s what shows you without a shadow of a doubt he’s a keeper.
That’s what makes you want to stay.
Because even with every reason to shut down and crash, to cut you lose due to his inability to handle stress or juggling too much at the same time… he will not let you go.
Energy feeding us without us realizing ☀️ it warms the soul and the body. Simple things are there everyday. Do we pay attention? Are we aware of their presence, their beauty, their impact? We’re alive but how much in tune are we? Simple and little things… sun rises and sets everyday. How often do we enjoy its beauty? How much do we appreciate what it can do for us? How do we understand the power of now, the present, the moment in which your mind can be tuned with only one frequency. One thought. A simple thought. It’s the details of each day. It’s the little things everyday. Small big things. Be awake to enjoy them. This is on you. It’s your responsibility to live and own who you are. What does the sunset have to do with who you are? Go find out and let me know. I promise you won’t regret it. Just BE there. 🐚💧☀️🧡💛
“Every word we speak and every action we perform affects our future. But where do words and actions come from? They all start from our mind. And when we indulge in resentment or obsession or self-righteous thinking, we create several problems for ourselves. First we suffer the immediate pain of those thoughts and emotions, then we act in ways that cause ourselves and others harm. Finally, we reinforce a habit we’d be better without” Pema Chondron – Welcoming the Unwelcome
How do we relate to failure?
How do we relate to our unwanted surroundings?
Feeling not ok is ok, it’s part of the process of Life, it’s part of who we are.
Embracing the frustration and acknowledging it’s not ok, is part of the emerging awareness.
And that awareness will trigger you to bring out your best self.
Victimization and self-commiseration will not serve us on the long run of our life journey.
Give yourself time to cry and feel destroyed.
It will feel like annihilation around you.
But let’s give ourselves the right to react and slowly stand up.
We can learn from it, become stronger with with, be better prepared.
So let’s not delve in it forever.
Let’s not reinforce those habits.
Let’s mind how we speak to ourselves and others knowing the impact it will have at a later stage in ripple effect.
Let’s be aware of what we can make indestructible in ourselves.
Love and Everyday Affairs 