Cake and Attention

Welll… yeah!! 😅😅

Key words… CAKE… and ATTENTION! As simple as that.

If you’re a girl, you want attention, if you’re a woman, you still want attention.

It’s inherent to the human being as I believe the male species also requires attention.

They just might live better without the cake.

The problem is when we don’t get the attention we crave for. How do we deal with it?

I dare saying we literally seek for it, and when we do so, we make a big mistake (or many mistakes actually)!

I also dare saying most times we hope for the attention of one particular person… if it doesn’t come… drama!

All alarms are on!

And you make it worst by looking for the attention… (let’s forget the cake for now).

You know that if that person is silent rather than giving you the attention he once gladly provided before, he’s gone.

You just don’t want to really face it.

The “attention habit” is twisted.

You get used to that… it’s the difference between full on and gone.

No in between 🙄 it seems it’s the way life goes (so they say) and you need to live with it.

So here comes the seriously get real part…

YOU are ENOUGH.

It’s no one’s job to show you that.

It’s nobody’s job to validate you.

That’s YOUR job.

In or out of a relationship, you are still an individual with your own core belief and values system.

If another soul is tuned in with that, consider yourself a super privileged human.

If not… consider yourself super privileged anyway.

It means you have the brains and the strength to understand it and not allow anyone to mess with it.

Understanding and compromising don’t mean replacement or annulment.

Humility doesn’t mean being stepped on.

Kindness doesn’t mean weakness.

So, whenever you feel in need of attention… have that cake… and then hit the gym.

Give attention to yourself.

It’s a lifetime’s job understanding how you can take care of yourself… but trust me…

It’s possible 😉

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The Lie

We all go through heartbreaks.

We all go through the tears, the fears, and the sleepless nights.

Some are harder to digest and take longer to fully close that cycle.

For me, the hardest to silence is the lie.

I had a very quick relationship but very powerful and intense. In that short span of time I was the happiest I had been in years.

I felt understood, supported, taken care of, a spoiled princess and a proud woman.

When we first met, he told me his story: divorced, had been married for 22 years with a woman whom didn’t have his back at any point.

From what I was told, it was an unhappy marriage where the friendship and understanding were gone.

Physical needs were fulfilled with no emotional connection.

So all of the sudden I knew this man’s story through his words, his eyes, his details.

One day he disappeared.

Vanished in thin air.

Without a trace.

I was shattered.

He later messaged apologizing for disappearing but “his family” was arriving the following week.

He never spoke to me again.

I realized “his family” meant his daughters… and his wife.

It broke my spirit.

It broke something I believed in.

He didn’t give me the power of choice.

It was my decision to make in full knowledge.

I think he knew exactly what my position would have been had he told me from the beginning.

I felt lied to, used, manipulated, humiliated.

This man introduced me to his friends and met my friends…. and there it was… the ugly truth.

He had introduced his new toy.

He gave me a lot. I value that.

But what he gave, he took in double.

The position he put me in brought me down quick, hard and into deep darkness.

But as we all know, we are machines.

You cry.

A lot.

And you wake up in the morning and go on about your business.

You forgive but you don’t forget.

And one day, a reminder is all it takes to bring it all back as if they were recent scars.

It all comes back to life.

And again, as a big girl, you take the blow.

So yes… people like me are like bruised fruit.

What do you do with bruised fruit?

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Nothing Changes

For those of us who live abroad we live the dual Life…

Home is now a 2 sided reality.

When you go on vacation, you go Home.

When you come back, you come back home. It’s the place you built and it’s your “right here, right now”.

But sometimes Home might just surprise you when it comes to “right here, right now”.

And then, Life needs to show you again just how much of a b**** she is when it comes to timing.

She can’t give you what you most desire.

She will only allow you a glimpse so you can regret something you don’t even know what it is.

And suddenly there it is.

You get stuck in a moment in which you remember… “ah! This is how a man should look at a woman… I had forgotten…”

the sweet, inviting, subtly challenging look in those eyes…. the decent attractive conversation… beauty and brains… of course, that tiny extra bit of Gin helps you dream and fantasize “Can I just surrender and make time stop?”

“Can I please not have to go back and check this out for a bit?”…

No, you can’t, says Life with her witty provocative attitude. When something you crave for is right in front of you, right here right now.

Right or wrong, it’s how you feel at that time… the dazzling, beautiful hopes and dreams are just there.

And you have to let them go.

You can’t explore.

There’s no “next time”.

This mix is enough to get you in the bubble of questioning yourself… again and again.

Am I doing the right thing?

Should I be here instead of there?

You start thinking of everything else… family and friends who need you but whom you didn’t know needed you.

You need to make an effort to recall what brought you here. You need to remember what fuels your dreamy future.

But are you in the right direction?

How do you know?

How can you possibly know?

These are silly thoughts carried away by the magic of friends, music and Gin…

But they are surely enough to ignite an endless amount of real questions… enough to open the feared Pandora’s Box…

What opportunities might you be overlooking at Home?

What mistakes are keeping you away from the life you envisioned?

What if?

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Solo Traveling and Volunteering

Back in the beginning of the year, one of my resolutions was that I would take one week for myself.

I had defined 2 things had to be guaranteed during that week: traveling on my own and do some form of volunteering for a cause I believe in. I’ve done the research, the booking and off I went. I didn’t give it too much thought.

I ended up in Calais, a small French village very close to the UK, mostly known for its irregular Migrants situation. I volunteered a few days with an organization who supports all kind of displaced people (including refugees, asylum seekers… as I learned there are a number of specific legal terms depending on different circumstances) who reach Calais in search of a safer and better life.

Their support runs deep within this community with several organizations operating from the Warehouse.

What looks “just” like a regular warehouse from which daily operations and logistics support are ran, is actually a symbol of so many people coming together in face of human need.

It’s a real specific answer to real identified needs, not just an idea floating in the air.

Their support goes beyond providing hot meals, clothes, shoes, tents and other first necessity items.

The good will of a group – made of a very special kind of people – has an extreme impact on so many lives.

It seemed to me everyone is truly guided by a sense of justice that should be within everyone in the world.

I’m pretty sure the world would be a much better place.

As for me, it was really good to feel useful somehow.

The small action each person has on that warehouse will have a positive repercussion in someone’s “quality” of life at a later stage.

You do your tiny bit for the principle itself.

You do it because you believe in something and you want to back it with some action instead of lose words.

Some will call it fulfilling a sense of purpose, others fulfilling a sense of usefulness.

I’d say both.

Of course I would have preferred having hands on field work to see for myself what and how it’s happening, more as a confirmation of what I already believe in: people are People, not objects, not political toys.

In any case, it’s a delicate and far more complex matter than it seems and it requires handling from experienced people, which I understand.

The work of these people must be praised, admired, respected and supported.

From where I stand, they do it out of Love and Hope in a stronger and more equal society.

They do it out of the belief that no person should be “invisible” and everyone is entitled to a dignified life, where everyone is to be treated as a Human Being, where their rights are actually recognized and enforced rather than simply one more topic discussed in a never ending agenda in political debates between countries, lobbies and hidden interests.

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Me Time.

When sometimes you manage to disconnect for a bit…

you find yourself in a nest you don’t want to leave anymore because you’re just so comfortable.

One more solo travel in search of something.

Not sure if I will find it (as usual with all my plans!).

Not sure it will match my expectation.

Not sure it will give me the answers I’m looking for.

I just know I’m here.

What started as an idea in January turned into a booking in April and materialized into a fact in July.

Here I am.

It doesn’t matter what I came for.

What matters is I did come and I’ll do what I said I’d do.

Regardless of everything else.

I could have changed my mind.

But I thought it was important enough to keep my word.

But now that I’m here, something changed and I don’t know what.

I only know that I know nothing… even though my name is clearly not Jon Snow!

This silence… can I keep it?

It’s almost 10pm and it’s still daylight… how magical is that?

I started reading a book which I’m not quite grasping…

I’ll stick to it to see where it goes… maybe it will surprise me somehow…

Wouldn’t that be amazing?

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If Only

Someone recently asked me if I got into a relationship here in Dubai, what would I do if He went away?

Would I stay for career purposes or would I go?

My answer is quite obvious… if it’s real, I’ll go.

If two people are really together, planning to settle a Life together, what’s the point in staying?

It’s so rare for Love to be reciprocal… it’s so hard to find, so precious… if you would finally find it… how could you not keep it?

How could you give up your most longed for treasure?

Maybe these words will only resonate with people who have been single for a long time.

Maybe they’re the only ones who will understand how fortunate one is to find Love… real Love… real people!

Love is like looking for a needle in a hay stack.

If by any miracle you would find it… or it would find you… consider yourself a wealthy human being.

As wealthy as you are, no amount of money can buy the feeling of companionship, of sharing your shit days or your achievements.

Someone who you can depend on, both on happiness and grievance.

Someone with whom you can laugh out loud or deeply cry your heart out.

Nothing can buy any of that.

So yes… without any shadow of doubt… if I should be so lucky, I’d just Go.

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Opinions

You bet you are!!

So true!

Seems simple enough right?

But how easy is it for us to be upset by one person’s opinion on us?

What kind of power do they have to throw us down so quickly? Well… they don’t have that power!

We give it to them because maybe we’re insecure or don’t know how to deal with it.

So once that self-doubt energy settles in, it’s hard to change it back up in useful time.

It usually hits us on our most vulnerable spots so it’s even harder!

I guess the first step is to become aware of the power we’re giving them.

Awareness on what’s really happening at least makes you want to change it.

Once you want to change it… work on it, ask for help.

Start valuing yourself.

Look around… is it only that person that breaks your energy? Or many?

Of course you can question yourself but when you do, be sure to be imparcial with yourself and not be the first to sabotage… you.

So build what you’re sure of.

Trust it.

Trust your good energy to overcome everything else.

Trust your judgement.

One opinion is worth… whatever meaning you give it.

So make it relative, it’s definitely not a universal one.

Trust yourself and act accordingly.

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